In between I cant deny sometimes my desires control me , yet there r other times when I realize that its not worth it .. but it’s a constant struggle I must admit

Wealthy we are in our mind and hearts,

What else do we need?

Flowers!

i agree!..makes sense.
i gotta be honest...like notorious, sometimes my desired do get the best of me...but i'm only human...right??
but reading this, and thinking about it, i feel richer.
anyway, we've been taught in islam to look at those who are in a worse position than us - that should make as content and grateful for what we have. i hope we all keep that in mind :)
the worst thing of all - waste.
and the way we aew going, majority of things we purchase eventually get wasted...unused..and this includes food, electricity and water...let's try and not waste ANYTHING!

I totally agree...the prophet (saw) said "If a man is given a valley of gold, he will desire for another one"
There are so many times you buy something and then later dont use it much or maybe not use it at all...All of us have desires of what we wish we could have and it really is a jihad to control ur nafs and just yesterday while attending a weekly lecture in the islamic center i frequently go to, the brother was talking about how the sahabas used to compete with each other regarding their ibaadah and seeking pleasure of Allah..we do the same only difference is we compete in "who's got the best car, who's got the highest degree or job" n so on...

Every time we yearn for something we can't afford, we become poor - regardless of our resources


i find this very very true - infact, i dont think i couldve put it in better words myself

o like the people before me, i consider myself a very very rich person because i have lots of things that other dont, like a good family, education and a certain amount of luxury, but that doesnt mean my desires dont get the best of me sometimes ;)

i think i am rich lmao....
BUT... if you kill ure desires i think youll kill ure motivation!! think about it, like now i am dying to get a diamond necklace at al mosoud!! so if i kill the desire of wanting it then ill kill all the manipulation and the blackmailing ill have to do to get it!! ok wait, heres a better example!! say u want some thing so badly, you will work hard for it, but if you kill all ure wants and wishes, what will make u wake up in the morning and go to work?!?! it makes no sense!!

its our desires and wishes that make us the kind of person we are, if we want to end up rich with private jets and jewels then u will automatically work hard for it....

so i like having desires and wishes.....

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Anyone happen to know who Secret Dubai (the blogger: secretdubai.blogspot.com) is?

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الحمد لله لأني أشعر أني من ملوك هذا الزمان.. في قمة الغنى.. :)
لأني أملك القناعة الكافية ولله الحمد بما املك.. ولأني أقارن نفسي بمن هم دوني.. وأخيرا لأني لا أجعل لأهواء جامعة ورغبات متذبذة أن تتحكم بي أو أن تجعل مني عبدة وخادمة لهذه الأهواء..

أما عن الحل المقترح وهو أن تكون رغباتنا محدودة أو أقل.. فأنا ضده..
لما علينا أن نحدد رغباتنا ونحكم عليها بالموت.. أرى ان الأولى أن نفلتر هذه الرغبات والأهواء ما كان صالحاً نشتغل فيه وماكان ضرب من السفه والتبذير فنضرب به عرض الحائط..

هناك رغبات وإن كانت كبيرة فهي تكون دافع للعمل والنجاح والتقدم.. وهناك رغبات تستعبدنا وتجعلنا أسرى لا نقوى على الحراك.. الفلترة هو الحل الأفضل بالنسبة لي..

يبدو أني أطلت الرد.. وبلغة تكاد تكون معدومة هنا :)..

لك الشكر على هذاالموضوع المميز والذي يجب أن نتذكره من حين لآخر..

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أتمنى أن لا يكون في ردي نوع من التطفل.. ولكني تصفحت المدونة ولم أرى تنبيه منك ينوه باستخدام لغة معينة..

really meaningful..

and true ..

it's not bad for a person to be ambitious .. but the problem occurs when they want things that are not necessary..

and as u said we need to expect less and want less ,, cuz when a person expects a lot and gets little that's gona be really frustrating for him .. so expect less and you never know what may come ..

I can now afford 10x of what my father could. Yet I keep my lifestyle within the limits I grew up with. At times, I am overcome by the need to flaunt.

well well well,
that caught my attention, desire is something very Intangible that one can't deny yet can't define..

desires to some people is a motive, to other is greedy, some others consider it life-style..

yet it could not define if a person is rich or poor,

to me it defines HOW Badly you are addicted to your desires in order to achieve them..

No one in the world would desire something they don't want or can't reach,,

and if they desired something, they'll work hard to get it .. regardless they were poor or rich ..

Wise words!

Stopping by to say 'Eid Mubarak!'. Greetings and best wishes.

eid mubarak!

I say give a man more money, this will automatically curb his desire seeing how u get bored easily once u get wat u want.. human nature!
u bring up a veeeeery interesting topic that relates to 7asad! u c i see no problem in desiring things, i actually enjoy it coz it gives u something to fight for.. actually it depends on wat u desire, think of hierarchy of needs ( basic to luxury)... but when does desire turn into 7asad.. it is when u desire something so much that u wish u have "INSTEAD OF" this other person.. this is just plain evil..
lastly..i have noticed something and it is really bugging me! that some ppl have things that other less fortunate ppl cud only dream of! and they still complain! instead of saying al7amdullilah! this is when (to me) desire becomes a sin and allah i believe will punish them for it...

إن كنت في نعمة فأرعاها... إن "المعاصي" تزيل النعم

Sorry friends for the late reply, maybe some of you got this impression that perhaps I am too proud. In fact, you guys sharing your thoughts with me means alot. And to be honest, one of the reasons behind me picking up blogging was to share thoughts. I won't say I was busy or stuff, the fact is that I am just lazy, there is no other explanation or excuse. So please bear me :-)

Notorious: If it wasn't a constant struggle, why would have this life been called a test? :-)

Jim: You said it very well my friend, it is all in the mind, thanks for your visit, hope you are doing great :-)

Sadia: Well unfortunately most rich people won't agree with your point of view regarding wastage. Their arguement is that as long as we can afford it, we will waste, whether you like it or not :-)

Habayeb: Thanks for sharing that saying of the Prophet. Btw, which Islamic centre is it? The one in Jumeira?

ĐǻñĎõøðñ: Who would call us humans if our desires didn't get the best of us at times? :-)

The Jeweled Orchid: Well, nothing wrong with desires as long as we don't cross the red lines & also fulfil our duties towards the society. I am sure you will agree with that :-)

مسك الحياة: Well, there is no restriction on the usage of arabic language. I liked your usage of the phrase "filtration". Yes, we need to filter our desires so that we pursue the legitimate desires & discard the bad ones. A nice perspective to look at things :-)

libero anima: Thanks for agreeing with my point of view. I think always expecting less, especially when it comes to material possessions is indeed a good formula for happiness :-)

nisa: Salam Nisa, it has been a long time, hope you are doing fine :-)

So you are trying to say that nothing wrong with poor as long as you make sure that you maintain proper hygiene. No doubt why our religion stresses so much on the cleanliness aspect. By the way, thanks for sharing that funny but ironic news story :-)

The Wizard of D: Well, I guess society has become too much material oriented, and it pressure you to prove yourself as a successful person by flaunting your material wealth. God help the future generations.

MYTH.GRAPHY: If they desire something, they will work towards fulfilling it, I agree with you here. But then is every desire commendable? If someone desires alcohol or drugs, and if they dont find any other way except to stel, then is their stealing justified so they can fulfil their desire? :-)

Bridget Jones: Thanks for stopping by & for the eid greeting. Hope you are alright too :-)

justAgurl: You have raised a very good point regarding envy or 7asad as you said. Just look at the corporate world, at least in this part of the world, I think 7asad played a big role in people becoming greedy because they want to be richer than their peers. I think it was also one of the main reasons behind the crazy inflation of the last 5-6 years.

I totally agree with you,not only that I live it.The less one has the easier life gets.One has hardly anything to take care of,it doesn't get any better that that.

The only problem that I have is a lot of clothes that I have accumulated and I keep thinking that one of these days I will wear this and that,and so I have a hard time giving them away.

This post struck me fancy. I think I only have dimes compared to most of the posters here...but I feel dirty rich. I mean loaded. Disgustingly loaded.

I don't wanna brag. Really, but the way your posted started and ended just made me want to share. Even more than the dimes that I really have.

Wealth is not in how much or how many you have. Wealth is in how many times you can share yourself, your time, your precious dimes, with others.

It's the recipients who will tell you later, whether you are a rich or a poor person.

Just my 2cs.

salamu alaykum

very true. if you keep like simple, then you can easily have everything you want and need.

unfortunately, i have a handbag addiction and as soon as i buy one, i see another one that i want.